From bad to good just like that...

Its a new dawn
Its a new day
Its a new life for meeeeeee...
and I'm feeling good.

I am full of good vibes today.... and do you know why?  Well, my friends... the answer is simply -
NO alcohol. I finally achieved a totally chilled and SOBER weekend, and o do I feel all the better for it! Now, don't get me wrong, I couldn't do this every weekend (as we all know I am a bit of a social butterfly and I do love a good party). However, I have seriously been lacking the odd quiet weekend of no set plans, no alcohol...  and subsequently of that no hangovers! Needless to say, I will definitely be ensuring that I do this much more regularly from now on. I feel so energized! Rarrr.

All I had to think about this weekend was simply what I wanted to do on each of the days.  If that had meant laying in bed all day, than I would have done just that, but with such brilliant sunshine.... all I craved for was to lay down beside the pools of the gorgeous One & Only Hotel and to soak up the summer heat. Just bliss.  I had just one set plan the whole weekend long, which unfortunately, just couldn't be ignored...

It was a follow up appointment to something that had happened to me in back January of this year, and without going in to it, it had been an extremely unexpected and tough time for me. Saying that, I endured through and I am genuinely fine now. However, just to be on the safe side of things... I do just need the odd check up to ensure that I am in fact all good. So I am sure you can all understand that with this appointment looming over me for the past month,  I have understandably been silently panicking  myself over the ''what ifs'' and ''what will I do'' if my check up this weekend doesn't go too well.

And so, I am sorry to say (admit) that with all my silent worrying, I have stupidly taken to smoking again (grrrr stupid, stupid girl!). Not good... and now looking back to last month I wish I had never started again, even if I did have my reasons.  Anyway, the appointment was yesterday and even though I am still waiting on my results... the time to stress and smoke has been. So here we are... Day 1 of no smoking (again). Hmm.
... Actually, to tell you the truth, I really don't feel too bad so far. I think the chilled weekend has made me so relaxed that I quite literally feel as though I could take on the world! Quitting smoking feels like a sinch right about now  and I will do this! (I am fully aware that I will most likely not be feeling like this later today or come tomorrow, but I will take this for the now!)

So for the now... I am going to desperately try to keep this momentum going, and only allow chilled, positive vibes to stay with me...This is going to help me to quit smoking and to also deal with the waiting for the outcome of my appointment. Who knew the wonders of just one relaxed weekend could bring?! I am determined to keep this feeling, and so for the rest of the week,  I will be devoting myself to quiet evenings after work, and no mid - week drinking shenanigans! Instead, I will be indulging in  some rare and stolen me time, and hopefully I will even feel energized enough that even after my 11 hour work days I can finally get back to tackling the gym also. Blimey. This may be a record changing week for me. I wonder if I can make it... no smoking and committing to gym time.....

Wish me luck !

x o x o

Back on it

O, Hello April!

How, we are already in April, I do not know. Also, the fact that this is my first post since January is just not good enough. Slack is the word that comes to mind.

I have no excuses. Its not like I haven't had much to write about. In fact, its almost the opposite. I have had so much going on, that I literally haven't had the time to write a post, and when I have... basically I have been a little blog shy...not like me I know.

I just haven't been able to find the words in how to write down what's been happing in my little world.  You see, I have left single status behind me and entered into a relationship (yes.. the single girl about the city is currently no longer single)... and basically I have been trying to figure out my own thoughts on this before being able to write anything. So that's been my writers block I guess...

However, I miss my writing. So I am back.... and yes, I will be updating on the past few months activities. Blaaady hope the new man just doesn't come across this. ha.

x o x o

Hello 2014

 

Hello 2014! So far you have been a little shit bag but that's OK. I forgive you. Now you have had your moment with me, lets put this to rest and make the next 11 months of this year simply amazing....

Pleased to put January behind me, and now moving forward into February... I am ready to get to my blogging ways once more (complete with my new blog look of course).

I have been a busy little girly with holidays, work and of course... my random nights out are always worth a write up, so yes I have lots to catch up on and so I best get''a writing.....(Just as soon as I actually have a quiet night in ) !

For now though.... 2014 may just be another year, but lets make it exciting and full of wonderful memories.... you never quite know what may be around the corner so start saying yes to new adventures. Who knows what you may discover, who you may meet and what opportunities may come your way

x o x o

Cheaters.

I am well aware that no matter where you live... there, unfortunately, will always be people who cheat on their partners... and Dubai is no different.

Lets face it... you would either have to be..... completely unsociable or ridiculously naïve to be living in Dubai and NOT notice how un- shamefully unfaithful people are here, and its not just the men... plenty of women are playing just as bad!

I am seriously starting to consider that the sun is quite possibly affecting people's brain waves.... Its like holiday vibes or something.... people just get a little loose don't they?

Anyway... after spending the past year and a half as a singleton in Dubai.... I have noticed/ realised and quite possibly stumbled upon some significant factors as to why so many people cheat here....

FYI people.. these are possible reasons but are certainly not excuses... ::

• Making Friends...  In efforts to make new friends, expats obviously have to, and also, want to go out a lot more..... quite simply because this increases their opportunities to meet like minded people in their new country! However, with the continuous meeting of new friends.... also comes the meeting of A LOT more... flirting temptations..

• Non stop party. Dubai offers an endless array of bars, pubs, nightclubs and even day time drinking..... and this isn't even just on weekends! EVERY day and night of the week, expats are tempted into unlimited offers available for them to party in venues that are packed out. The result? More partying... more mingling...and even more temptations thrown their way..

• Cashing in. Its fair to say that expats have said goodbye to non- drinking designated drivers and having to watch the pennies on nights out! It doesn't take a genius to understand why Dubai expats are drinking so much more... they pay next to nothing for taxis to and from venues, get free drinks and/or fantastic drinking offers when in the venues AND they have extra money to spend on even more drink from earning their tax free wages. To sum it up... its extremely easy for expats to get extremely wasted in Dubai, and lets be honest... we have all heard the  ''I was drunk'' excuse...

• Experiencing life. Most expats have a sense of independence...(hence the traveling and ultimately moving abroad). Wanting to experience as much as they can, some expats literally excuse themselves to do whatever they like and they genuinely take the approach of ''fuck it... I'm doing this... its a memory, a laugh, a story.. I only get one life'' etc etc. Basically they excuse their bad morals for life experiences. Which yes, I am sure plenty of people have made bad choices when wanting to branch out and experience new life opportunities (I being one of them), however I hardly agree that cheating is one of these moments...

• Loyalty.  With new found friends, some expats do not have the loyalty or even at times the courage.. to tell new friends that a partner has been caught cheating. And so... regrettably,  if people feel they can get away with it... sometimes that's the only excuse they need to go ahead and cheat..

So yeh... just a few points made there as to why I think so much cheating occurs in Dubai.

Ultimately though, I think if someone is a cheater.... then they will be cheater regardless of where they live or whatever opportunities they may or may not have.

Perhaps... its just some people may have found themselves cheating since moving to Dubai....  because they have always had it in them... but never had the opportunity... and now they literally have all the opportunity they need and just can't resist saying no anymore.

I don't know.... but I do think that all this nonsense of cheating and the amount it goes on Dubai is quite concerning .... HOWEVER,  just as I know that I could never cheat on someone, I have to believe that there are still good men about...

Put it this way.... in ANY relationship, people will always worry about someone not being faithful...  but that is the risk we all have to take when it comes to falling in love..... and I think its worth the risk - you never know, you may find that someone special

x o x o

20 rules every woman should live by..

1. Men are not the be all and end all of life... they can sometimes be a great addition but you are still who you are without them

 

2. Keep your inner child alive! No matter how old you actually are... age is just a number.... don't ever forget what it feels like to be young, mischievous and full of life !

 

3.  Relax... It is perfectly normal and OK to be 25.. 30...35 years old... and still not know what you want to do when you grow up.

4. Its your life and your hard earned cash.... so spend your money how you want to! Don't let others judge and tell you how you should be living your own life

 

5. Ladies...There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. When did everyone start believing that you can only be ''complete'' when in a relationship? You do whatever is best for you.


6. Your parents have already  made their own choices in life... its now your turn to make your own! Sometimes your parents will disagree with what you want to do.... but make these choices anyway. Your parents love you and eventually they will come around.

 

7. People will ALWAYS talk.... don't let it get to you.

8. Cherish your friends... Appreciate them and treat them how you wish to be treated.

9. Don't beat yourself up if you had one two many shots on the weekend...(and danced like no ones watching... and sang like you were in your shower... while you flirted with every man that looked your way) !! You work hard... and you deserve the occasional messy night out with your girls. Enjoy it... and just laugh at the memories.

10. You are never too old to learn/ do something new....  !


11. Keep company with those who love you for you. You don't need people in your life who compare themselves to you, or rain or your parade.

 

12. Be- YOU- tiful. Never feel that you need to look or act like someone else to get others to like you, you have your own uniqueness and your own quirkiness for people to love you as you are! Embrace your own beauty.

 

13. You are going to make mistakes. Everybody does. Just remember, everything happens for a reason so learn from your mistakes, recover and come back better than ever.

 

14. Live your life for you. The only way you will ever truly be happy is by living how you choose to live, not how your parents, boyfriend or friends think you should live.

 

15. Its OK to forget the diet sometimes. Ordering the occasional take out... or having a cheeky bit of chocolate is not going to be the end of the world. Besides.... a bit of curves on a girl is always good

 

16. Girls... when it comes to men :: Flirt with him enough to show your interest. But tease him enough to make him chase you.

17. Always, always, ALWAYS remember that a confident girl is a beautiful girl... so be sure to Keep your head up, your standards high and always dress as if you are going to see your worst enemy!

 

18.  Wear fabulous underwear ...(even if you are the only person to see it) !! Feeling good about yourself exuberates confidence and happiness... and something as small as wearing beautiful, matching undies can really make all the difference

 

19.  Remember girls.... you can never be overdressed or overeducated

20.  Lastly, but definitely not least.... good manners do not cost a thing! A polite, charming lady is always well received..

  

 O and here is one extra for your girls....

 

x o x o

Men. Sometimes a girl just needs one.

 

This ones for all the single ladies out there...   ''Men. Sometimes a girl just needs one.''

Honestly... being a single, self respecting woman now a days is just not as easy as it seems... and I am certainly being put to the test at the moment.

Admittedly... we have all had our ''casual'' flings and bit of  ''fun'' over the years....which is all fine and dandy...

....and then ''supposedly'' we all go on to meet the love of our lives and settle down, leaving our naughty single ways behind us.

But what happens to those of us who find ourselves single again after broken relationships... ? Do we take to our ''casual'' flings again? And if so, well... when does the ''fun'' become too much?

I am a little bit torn with this concept at the moment...

You see,  after being completely monogamous for 4 years... getting used to single life again definitely took some getting used to. Yes, I was the one who broke away, but I still needed my time...and so after an added good few months.. I was just coming round to the idea of being with other men again. Coincidentally this was about the time when I moved back to Dubai, last year in May 2012.

Needless to say... after emigrating to the warm temperatures of Dubai, moving into my own apartment and meeting lots of other singletons.... well... I was soon feeling very at ease with my new single life. In fact - I was darn right loving it.

However, as 2013 rolled in, I was ready for something more than just ''fun.''  I had enjoyed my ''single'' time.. and more importantly given myself time to be by myself and feel like ''me'' again. Therefore, I said goodbye to some gorgeous men in my life and promised myself no more ''casual'' flings or ''fun''' until I met someone who I actually had feelings for.. I wanted some romance again..

Problem with that great idea... is that... I currently find myself still single.... ultimately meaning that I have now been extremely well behaved for most of this year ...

And to top if off... these gorgeous men that I said goodbye to... are still trying to provoke me into some more single fun... which in all honesty has left me at the point of feeling that I cannot resist much longer....

In fact I haven't resisted. opps.

Actually, not ''opps''..... because I quite frankly do not feel bad about this in any way whatsoever! Basically... what happened is that after some rather unexpected but damn good bit of weekend fun... I have quickly been awoken to the realization that yes...I am single....I am 25 years old ......and  YES....of course I should be having fun...

 

.....Just everything has its boundaries!

I can still have my self respect, but there is absolutely no need for me to be acting like I am joining a nunnery while I am single.

So its got me thinking....

One of my good friends out here has a ''friend with benefits'' .... and rather superbly.... she has aptly named him....  ''Hero'' for reasons being obvious... he's the best sex that she has ever had....and therefore her ''Hero.''  (I know its brilliant.. it makes me laugh every time that she says ''I saw Hero last night'').  Anyhoo.... they have had the ''relationship'' talk and he doesn't want one. Yes, she would have liked more with him but she is perfectly fine with  them also just keeping things ''casual'' because she now knows where she stands with him and at the end of the day.. they are having an amazing time with each other.  In the mean time, she's not doing this with anyone else... but she is obviously single and still going on dates and when the time comes when she sees something happening romantically with another guy then of course she will stop her ''fun'' with ''Hero''.

Basically... the bonus of having a ''friend with benefits'' is of course.... you get your ''fun'' pretty much on call whenever you want it.

...BUT.... from a woman's point of view.... its more than that. We can, by all means go out to a bar and quite easily take someone home with us... however my problem with that... and most other self respecting women's problem with that is the sheer fact that as much as you may be wanting to fulfill certain needs..... at the end of the day doing this on a regular basis and ultimately sleeping with numerous strangers is just not respectful of ourselves. Yes, most people I know have had their random fun... as realistically ... we all have basic needs and wants and if your being safe then yes... the occasional wild night is nothing to be ashamed of in the great scheme of things....

HOWEVER... The truth of the matter is, that us ladies... see more sense in having one regular partner than a string of one night stands... and when we cant find that one regular partner in a committed relationship that we call our boyfriend... then yes...in simple terms...most of us single ladies do appreciate having a ''friend with benefits.''

So I guess I have come to the conclusion and what I am trying to say to all my single ladies is... stop worrying so much about having some ''fun'' and just do what sits right with you and your own self respect. At the end of the day,  what's wrong with two consenting adults getting it on? And when it is good.. then I really don't see the harm in that carrying on as long as you both know where your feelings lie.

So..be safe....and enjoy...

x o x o

Best Quote.

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Collection of BEAUTIFUL

Here's a little collection of pictures and quotes that I quite simply love xxx 

 

 



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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